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A lot of times, couple get pissed off with each other by the way they respond to each other. We can do better if we learn responses in the affirmative and not in the combative. Let's  read the following:

1. Statement: Are you okay; is anything the matter?
- Wrong response: Can't you see yourself; what kind of question is that?
- Right response: I'm not feeling fine; I think I need some attention.

2. Statement: I got wounded in kitchen.
- Wrong response: I've told you to always be careful with knife.
- Right response: Oh sorry, let me have a look. Please be more careful with knife.

3. Statement: I'll like to eat corn flakes.
- Wrong response: No way! It's for the children; and that's for one month! Take garri if you are hungry.
- Right response: Okay, you can eat a little. I trust you'll give us money to buy another.

4. Statement: I'm really hungry.
- Wrong response: Even I myself have not eaten since morning.
- Right response: Oh sorry, let's see if there's something you can manage for now.

5. Statement: Why don't you do it this way?
- Wrong response: Why is it that you always find fault with what I do?
- Right response: Well, I've tried this before and I think it will work. If not, I'll try that.

6. Statement: I want more food.
- Wrong response: Ha-ha, it has finished. You want to finish all the food in the house?
- Right response: Sorry, please manage that for now. We are down on food stuff.

7. Statement: Handle that thing carefully please.
- Wrong response: Am I that daft? You will just be talking to me as if I don't have any sense.
- Right response: Yes dear, I will.

8. Statement: Haven't you finished what you are doing?
- Wrong response: You are seated there doing nothing and you are asking if I've not finished!
- Right response: It will still take a while; can you please lend me a hand?

9. Statement: I bought this on my way; I thought it will be useful.
- Wrong response: How much did you buy it? What! That's too expensive - wọ́n ti gbá ẹ!
- Right response: Thank you; it will indeed be useful. Thanks for the surprise.

10. Statement :Am feeling Horny today, I will like us to make love.
Wrong Response : Ha ha, is it food. Am tired ooo.
Right Response: Whaooo. Dear, for it to be mutual enjoyment, can you please wait till early in the morning. I'm so tired right now.

_A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Please this is not for the purpose of condemnation, but for continuous improvement of our/their love relationship.
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2019 Elections And Disturbing Political Violence By Alabidun Shuaib Abdulrahman

Historically, Nigeria’s elections have always been tense. In few days, Nigerians will go to the polls to elect the country’s next president and members of National Assembly. And as the campaign gathers momentum, there are concerns the upcoming process will see new violence. Although I am neither a prophet of doom nor pro electoral violence to have predicted this but it must be stated we can't rule it out, considering the scores of political violence that have been witnessed in recent times.
On January 8, violence erupted during the inauguration of the campaign of the All Progressives Congress at the Sky Power Ground, Oba Akinjobi Road, Ikeja, Lagos, as factional political errands boys known as thugs invaded the venue in their daredevil - look and later disrupted the programme by engaging in a supremacy battle with one another. They wielded all sorts of dangerous weapons against one another the aftermath was several degrees of injury.
Many were reportedly shot, as some were hacked. Among those who reportedly sustained gunshot injuries during the clash were the Group Political Editor of The Nation, Emmanuel Oladesu; a correspondent with New Telegraph, Temitope Ogunbanke; and a cameraman with Ibile Television, Abiodun Yusuf and surprisingly, a leader of the National Union of Road Transport Workers, Musiliu Akinsanya, aka MC Oluomo, was also stabbed during the clash.
In a separate incident, a few days later, one person was killed and about 10 vehicles were destroyed during an attack on the convoy of the governorship candidate of the APC in Taraba State, Alhaji Sani Danladi. The incident occurred when Danladi, who was on a campaign tour of the Southern zone of the state was on his way to Ibi Local Government Area and his convoy ran into some youths who barricaded the Ibi roundabout area of Wukari.
Also, in another scenario, it was reported around January that two persons were injured and many properties worth millions of naira were destroyed in Kwara State as a result of political clash among the political apologists of People's Democratic Party (PDP) and All Progressives Congress (APC). 
However, just recently, hell was let loose in Abuja, as supporters of the All Progressives Congress (APC) and Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) engaged in a violent clash that left many injured and several vehicles burnt. It is said that the incident happened when the convoy of the Minister of Federal Capital Territory (FCT), Mallam Mohammed Musa Bello, ran into a PDP campaign event at Dei Dei market, on the way to the palace of the Sarkin Jiwa in Jiwa District. 
So unfortunate, these are among the numerous cases of violence that have been recorded in Nigeria since the process leading to the nation’s general elections. 
Furthermore, the National Security Adviser (NSA), retired Maj.-Gen. Mohammed Monguno, during his meeting with members of the Nigeria Governors Forum (NGF) made a very shocking revelation on how some politicians are scheming to arm political thugs during the general elections. He said that intelligence reports had indicated plans by some individuals and groups to instigate violence during and after the upcoming elections. 
As the nation gets closer to the general elections, therefore, one will just hope that political gladiators will learn from the saying that when brothers fight to death, a stranger inherits their father’s estate.
Youths should apply senses, so as not to allow their blood to be used to settle political scores. The ‘old brigade gladiators’ that you are supporting and want to kill yourselves for have been leading this country in their early 20s and 30s respectively. Play politics with both civility and humanity. 
While we await a credible and violence free polls before, during and after elections, there should be self-censorship in the spread of fake news and hate speech, as many times, political intolerance is characterised by hate speech and non-issue based driven campaign. 
Just as incidences cited above do cause violence, the deliberate spread of fake results from the election without cross-checking do cause more. It is expected that more of such falsehood will still be dished out during the elections, therefore causing unnecessary panic among citizens.
Therefore, a peaceful general election must be preceded by political education of electorates and party supporters alike. Our security personnel should do everything possible to forestall any bloodletting before, during and after election, as my hashtag is "Let's vote and no fight."

Alabidun wrote from Wuye, Abuja and can be reached via

INEC Releases Seven-Step Voting Procedure For 2019 General Elections.

The following are the 7 steps, stated by INEC:
INEC voting procedure

Step 1 :

Upon arrival at the Polling unit, joins the queue and present yourself to the INEC official ( APO111 ) at the polling unit who will determine whether you are at the correct polling unit and check if the photograph on the Permanent Voter Card ( PVC ) matches your face . If satisfied, he/ she will direct you to the next INEC official ( APO1 ).

Step 2 :

The official ( APO1 ) will request for your PVC to confirm that your card is genuine and your details , using the smart card reader. He/ she will ask you to place your finger on the card reader to confirm that the PVC belongs to you by ascertaining, the card reader will contains the name , photograph and finger prints of all those registered in their polling unit.

Step 3 :

You will then meet the next official ( APO11 ) who will request for your PVC to confirm that your name and details are in the voters register .

 Your name will be ticked and your PVC returned to you . He/ she will then apply indelible ink to the cuticle of your appropriate finger for that election to show you have been accredited to vote. ( If your name is not found on the register , you will not be allowed to vote).

Step 4 :

The presiding officer ( PO ) stamps , signs and endorses the date at the back of the Ballot Paper . The PO will roll the ballot paper inwardly with the printed side inwards and give to you . He / she will then direct you to the voting cubicle where you vote in secret.

Step 5 :

You will stain your appropriate finger for the election with the ink provided then use your stained finger to mark the space or box provided on the ballot paper for your preferred candidate / party . Roll the marked ballot paper ( in the manner the PO gave to you ).

Step 6 :

Then leave the voting cubicle and drop the ballot paper in the ballot box in full view of people at the polling unit.

Step 7 :

You will then leave the polling unit or wait if you so choose in an orderly and peaceful manner to work the process up to declaration of result.

N.B . The result of each polling unit shall be pasted at the unit and for everyone to see.